Omni Us

"I want to Interrobang You in Spanish" by smoMashup1 is licensed under CC BY 2.0 

“The tall, middle-aged white woman with the Kensington Philadelphia accent, said that.”

You can tell something about me from the above quote. But the picture it creates in your head may be, and probably is, different from who I am.

I’m not just middle-aged. I’m the age I choose to be at any moment. I’m not tall compared to some people. I don’t live in a Kensington neighborhood in Philadelphia anymore. I tan or redden in the sun, like everybody. I’m not only female. That description alone separates me from others who are not. Why separate?

When I was very young, people called me a little girl. That highlighted me being small and inexperienced, suggesting little worth and much dependency. It labeled me as not strong or, possibly, not the correct sex. Zeroing in on physical aspects can be limiting even though given in love. It drove home how helpless I felt.

Religion can separate people, a lot. Even from similar denominations. The polarizing ‘us and them’ mentality shrouds unconditional acceptance. When a faith community demands that I live, believe, think and promote exactly what they do, I feel bullied.

If you’re black, you wouldn’t say, “That black man…” You’d say, “That man…” If you’re white, you wouldn’t say, “Those white women…” Sometimes my passive-aggressiveness wants to act out when someone points to a physically aspect in referencing a person. I want to say, “Hi, I’m white Dawn who smells like onions.” (I like onions.)

When I refer to someone, I try to use “person,” “individual,” or their name. Politically correct? Or just correct without unnecessary information that may skew opinion?

The pronouns “he” and “she” are still ingrained in my speech, writing and thinking. But I’m trying to be more inclusion. Not just to be nice but to progress my relationships. That’s also good business. It grows me personally and professionally. It’s all selfishness on my part.   

“Us” and “we” could end polarity if used as a general reference. It may work better than “them” or “they” because it reminds us that we can be included in every human situation. It forces us to consider the other perspective. Even in the case of an antagonist. But this could be problematic in children’s literature. That audience hasn’t had time to mature enough to realize that “us” isn’t being used in a concretely inclusive way. They may not be able to distance themselves and understand that we all have antagonistic abilities, and that to choose not to accept a villain’s thoughts, acts, or speech is the point. 

Instead of altering or adding to our lexicon, what symbol could represent “he” “she” “him” and “her”? “They” and “them” is a step in the right direction but like “us” and “we” these are confusing and awkward. My first thought was an interrobang glyph. Suggestions should be inclusive and stay away from stereotypes and negativity. I wonder how an audio book would read an omni-symbol.     

Any other suggestions for a word or symbol?











 





 

Juliette Writers' Group Meeting

This was a great meeting. Thanks to all who attended.

February 18th @ 7:30pm 

Barnes & Nobles

1311 Nixon Dr.

Moorestown, NJ 

Topic for discussion is: Romance Writing/Character Relationships

Second-Hand Experience

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For this consumer, who hates shopping, second-hand stores are fun. My most memorable purchase was a laundry rack. Before trudging to Target or Kohl’s, I stopped in Goodwill. Passing through isles of tchotchkes, knick-knacks and wall décor, I almost tripped over the most impressive laundry drying rack I ever saw. Collapsed and leaning against the shelving unit, it was tagged at $5.00. How convenient.

I’ve found used furniture safer than affordable new furniture for sturdiness and durability. So, I was happy to trash pick a swivel rocker from my neighbor. Years later, after our family dynamic changed, I donated the rocker to Goodwill. They priced it at $25.00. On a subsequent trip to Goodwill, the rocker was gone. I was giddy knowing that instead of rotting in a landfill, the rocker was getting a 3^rd life with another family.

Shopping non-profits is conscious-free spending. I’ve even re-donated purchases. This is recycling at its finest. The Goodwill Store may have a well-paid CEO , but it provides a community with jobs and a local store of affordable products. The Goodwill near me recently expanded. It’s the largest second-hand store for essentials I’ve been in. See my humorous experience during their Sunday special here.

Go to Habitat for Humanity ReStore for large items. My local Habitat ReStore has a huge selection of furniture and home improvement materials. I volunteered at a ReStore and was amazed at their stock of doors and windows. And ceramic tile! Those boxes were heavy. Hubby and I recently bought a new 12 x 15 area carpet there for $20.00.

Green Drop serves Purple Heart, National Federation for the blind, American Red Cross, and St. Vincent de Paul. I’ve seen their truck picking up bags from a neighbor’s home. Wrap fragile items securely before donating. The Green Drop collection facility near me isn’t a store, so dropped off items aren’t put immediately on shelves, like at Goodwill. They’re shipped out.

UrbanPromise not only uses donations to aid city communities, their store also serves my town by providing a local shop that sells necessities and more. Today, I bought a tablecloth, 5 unused decorative rubber stamps, sealed Post-It notes in the shape of a flower, and a new unwrapped box of 3 large scented soaps. The total was $20.00. Thanks to second-hand stores, I can afford linens with high thread counts.

Of course, use common sense buying used items. Non-profits usually won’t sell things like baby furniture (too unsafe), mattresses, food, or personal items like hairbrushes. However, sometimes volunteers stock shelves and floors. Things can slip by that shouldn’t be sold used. Make sure electronic works before buying. You may not be allowed to return them. Or might only receive store credit for a returned item. Ask if the electronic was tested. The store may let you plug it in and try it out. I’ve seen workers/volunteers being friendly and helpful when asked about electronics.

Before spending top dollar on a Halloween costume, check out non-profits. Sometimes they have new wigs and other costume essentials still in their original, sealed wrapping. Creatives fashion costumes with things meant for other uses. You could put together a unique get-up that wins a contest because it isn’t “store bought”. Shop early. I see these stores busiest in September.

I’ve talked with people who buy from non-profits and resell those items online or through their own thrift shops. Remember this when you see prices at non-profits that seem a bit high. Non-profits are forced to price their inventory so that people shopping to profit for themselves don’t sweep shelves. That would deprive those products to people who need them for themselves or their families.

Warning: My husband said some candles I’ve bought have that “Goodwill smell” to them. Now I’m sticking to candles sealed in their original packaging. Of course, clean everything before use. Check clothing for pulls, holes, stains, dry rotted rubber, and stretching.

Shop with your head high; you’re helping others and saving room in landfills as you save money. Think of dear old Granny’s dusty, disheveled home when a store shows signs of volunteers being sick or on vacation. Even if you don’t enter the store with child-like awe, it’ll hit you when you see items from your past. I’ve chuckled to myself picking up a familiar game. But then, I put it back on the shelf. Overbuying won’t save money, or space in a home.

Buying from second-hand stores is more fun than getting something used. If you receive a gift from me, be assured it’s not from a second-hand store. If my gift to you does wind up there, I won’t be offended. I’ll be proud you recycled, and happy the gift isn’t in a landfill.